Mindful Leadership Blog

The Power of Being: Embracing the Be-Do-Have Model for Success and Fulfillment

Dec 11, 2023

In the pursuit of success and happiness, we often find ourselves fixated on the idea that achievements or certain outcomes will bring us the contentment we seek. We believe that once we accomplish our goals, we'll finally be happy, successful, secure, and content. However, what if the path to success and fulfillment isn't about chasing external accomplishments but rather about a fundamental shift in our way of being?

Enter the Be-Do-Have model—a transformative concept that challenges the conventional narrative. This model proposes that we separate our state of being from the desired outcomes we wish to achieve. It emphasizes that happiness, success, contentment, and security are not byproducts of external achievements but rather internal states of being that precede and catalyze success.

Consider this: would you rather engage with someone who embodies success or someone who's waiting to be successful? The answer seems clear. A person who exudes success, not because of their achievements, but because of their mindset, attitude, and approach to life, radiates a magnetic energy. This individual's proactive and positive demeanor often attracts success effortlessly.

Similarly, when faced with the choice between someone who is genuinely happy and someone who's perpetually waiting to be happy, the preference leans towards the former. Happiness, being an inside job, isn't contingent on external circumstances. Choosing to cultivate happiness within oneself, irrespective of the current situation, fuels resilience, optimism, and a sense of well-being, ultimately contributing to success.

Security and contentment also stem from a state of being rather than from external validations. Would you opt to spend time with someone who exudes a sense of security or someone who is anxiously waiting to feel secure? The answer here aligns with the assurance and stability that come from inner confidence and peace.

The Be-Do-Have model challenges the notion that we must wait for external circumstances to dictate our internal state. Instead, it encourages a shift in perspective—cultivating the qualities we desire within ourselves first. By adopting a mindset of success, happiness, security, and contentment, irrespective of external factors, we enhance our chances of manifesting these very outcomes.

Practicing the Be-Do-Have model involves consciously choosing our way of being, regardless of external conditions. It requires introspection, self-awareness, and a commitment to personal growth. By embodying the qualities we seek, we not only enhance our own lives but also influence and inspire those around us.

Imagine a world where individuals prioritize their inner state of being over external achievements. A world where success, happiness, security, and contentment are seen as inherent states that drive external outcomes, rather than as rewards waiting at the end of a journey.

In conclusion, the Be-Do-Have model offers a paradigm shift—an invitation to prioritize our way of being over the pursuit of external goals. By choosing to be happy, successful, secure, and content in the present moment, we pave the way for a more fulfilling and prosperous future. So, let's embrace this model, cultivate our desired qualities within, and watch as our lives transform in ways we never thought possible.

I wrote a book, Profit with Presence: The 12 Pillars of Mindful Leadership, which goes in to further detail about this topic and more.

Although the world is currently abuzz with the term “mindfulness,” some believe mindfulness is a fringe activity to be practiced before or after the workday, if at all. Too few business professionals take the time needed to be present and aware throughout the workday, which is counterproductive. Mindfulness is not only a path to personal success, but a sound business strategy.  

My hope is to positively impact the world through infusing more mindfulness into business -- and it starts with each of us individually. Together, we can create a future where mindfulness is deeply embedded in our work culture, leading to greater well-being, productivity, and meaningful success for all.

- Dr Eric Holsapple


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